10 things that easily screw up your sex life
"One bad impression needs ten good impressions to make up", but in sexual life, some inappropriate sexual behaviors are often difficult to have a chance to remedy. Some wrong sexual behaviors are likely to affect sexual harmony, cause sexual frigidity, and even ruin a good marriage. Recently, a number of sexologists have summed up ten things that must be avoided in sex, and give interpretations.
- Agree to do something you don't feel comfortable doing. Trying new ways of sex can indeed bring freshness and increase stimulation. However, when your partner proposes some practices that you cannot accept in your heart or methods that make you feel uncomfortable, don't force yourself to accept them. Surveys have shown that when one party reluctantly accepts certain sexual methods (such as using sex toys), it is likely to cause sexual shadows, and then generate sexual disgust. Of course, don't directly reject your partner's suggestion. You can tell him (her) that you need time to try whether this method is suitable for you.
- Frequently fake orgasms. Many women will fake an orgasm during sex, thinking that this is a "white lie" to their lover. But pretending to climax will make both parties feel psychologically frustrated, and the climax rate will be lower in the future. It is recommended that when a female orgasm is approaching, give her partner some hints, such as "I'm coming", "I'm coming", etc. Some couples will have tacit body language hints before orgasm, such as habitually nibbling their ears.
- Focus only on the partner's genitals. Putting all your attention on the sexual organs is not only more difficult to mobilize the other party's passion, but also causes the body's uncomfortable reaction. Don't ignore the back, inner thighs, chest, neck and other places during sex, which are highly sensitive areas for both men and women.
- Answer calls or send text messages. There's nothing like being interrupted during making out. Stopping suddenly to answer a phone call or reply to an email during sex can make a lover feel neglected, and sexual desire may disappear immediately. Therefore, if you want to enjoy sex, it is recommended to mute or turn off your phone.
- Does not make any sound. A survey in France found that the partner's silence during sex is the most unacceptable behavior for men. During sex, everyone wants to confirm whether their partner is also enjoying it. Voice is the best expression signal. It is recommended not to hold back during sex, but make sure to make a sound, whether it is a low moan or a simple compliment, it is perfect sex The "catalyst" of life is a great encouragement to the partner.
- Focus only on how to orgasm. If you're constantly thinking about when you'll orgasm, it's hard to stay focused and enjoy the process. Don't force orgasm to be necessary, try to enjoy every moment, you will find more pleasure and orgasm easier.
- Talk too much. The bed is a great place to communicate, but don't babble, too much talking and too much chatter can kill your libido; trying to have a sensible conversation during sex can also kill your libido. You can use actions instead of words, or whisper exciting love words in your lover's ear.
- Rarely initiates a kiss. Studies have found that many people (including women) do not kiss their partners during sex. The reason is that the sex position is not conducive to kissing each other, or they are too eager to reach an orgasm. But experts believe that lack of kissing during sex can reduce emotional satisfaction. The best thing to do is to kiss more during foreplay.
- Always trying to imitate porn. Sex in real life is completely different from pornography. Your sex doesn't need to be so exaggerated and thoughtful, just follow the feeling and feel comfortable for both parties. So, get rid of those lenses in your head and let your body lead.
- Put your weight entirely on your partner. When adopting the "up and down position", you should avoid completely pressing your body on the opponent for a long time, which will affect the smooth breathing of the opponent, destroy their sexual interest, make it difficult to develop their movement skills, and make it difficult to devote themselves wholeheartedly.
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